I am SO tired of being made to feel like something is wrong with me becuase I'm formula feeding and had a C-Section. STOP PUSHING YOUR IDEALS ON ME. Walk a day in someone else's shoes for God's sakes. If you were 37 weeks pregnant and your kidneys were failing maybe you'd want your baby out too. Yes, I want a healthy baby, and we tested her amniotic fluid to make sure her lungs were mature first. But MY BABY NEEDS A MOTHER. We tried an induction and it failed, and pardon me for not wanting to die.
I tried BF for 2 weeks. It didn't work. I had to start back on life-saving medications. DEAL WITH IT. You are not a better mother than me, and you don't care more for your child than me because you breastfeed. I gave her what I could and then she had to go on formula. So I could remain alive to be her mother.
I swear to God I just want to punch people sometimes. Everyone should be allowed to make their own choices for their family without being made to feel second-class or shameful because of it. No one knows everyone's reasons for doing what they do. I'm a good mom, and if you think my having a c-section makes me less of one, you can kiss my ass.
And just for the record this "you" is euphemistic. I hear this shit everywhere I go. Facebook, blogs, message boards, and I'm over it. I swear to God the same people pushing these ideals are the ones who get pissed if someone preaches about God or something. Whatever you're preaching about, you're still preaching. And it's still annoying.
You're right. Your baby needs a mother. ! You gave her life; that doesn't mean you have to give your own in exchange. I'm sorry you hear stuff like that. I am pumping, but we've been supplementing since day 1. To be honest, they're mostly formula-fed, and while that wasn't my plan, it was necessary. My colostrum didn't even come in until 5 days after the delivery, and if anyone wants to give me flack because I decided to feed my babies formula vs. keep them screaming on an empty breast, they can go to hell. Just know you're doing an amazing job in the face of really complicated circumstances.
ReplyDeleteThank you. I get so worked up sometimes because everywhere I go people are complaining about moms having c-sections or using formula. Some of us have to. In the hospital E was screaming all the time... come to find out she was getting almost nothing from me. I tried at every feeding and nothing. A TSP here or there. I had to go back on some medications so I just went with formula. And even if there wasn't a reason, it's no one's business. Ugh. Thank you for the solidarity. We are good moms and anyone who doesn't think so sucks lol.
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